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I feel naked…

…and not in a good way!

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So when is it OK and not OK to be naked…for me I love getting my kit off, probably because I am an exhibitionist, or more to the truth, I really do like to kick back and shed the weekday attire and feel the sand between my toes and the elements on my skin, but that naked is OK…I am asking about the feeling you have when someone you have looked up to and aspire to be as good as if not better turns out to be….well to quote a phrase ‘not all that’

I guess the only way I could feel any more naked is if, there were others.

Thousands of people pose in the nude for

Others, who on the outside or from a distance have a good ‘show’ a presence, a swagger, a reputation and integrity.
OH NO…it has happened….Like Icarus, I clearly got to close…and substance – missing, ability – lacking and integrity – do not pass go, do not collect £200.
So there I am about to spiral…now which way do I go…?
Up and risk the ego taking over?
Or down and risk the ever too faithful human sabotage take over…Oh wait there is another way…of course there is…because I AM CONGRUENT.

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Congruent I hear you ask? Yes, Congruent. A mid-15th century Latin word Congruentum meaning ‘to come together, agree, correspond with’ A word that I use regularly with clients and myself. To me it means simply this. For me to be the best coach I can be, I need to be coached.

I need to understand how it feels when someone holds the mirror up and I am there, looking in, squirming…
I need to understand how I feel when I am being questioned about what I have or haven’t done to result in what I currently have or am.
I need to understand how empowered I feel when I am aided in reaching the point I need to reach to make it happen
I need to create my own solutions and have someone who I can bounce off, an outside voice who will not be my ‘yes man’ and help me see how it really is….
..Show me when challenges need facing and when brilliance exactly that, brilliance.

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So I turn to my coach, I am naked (they don’t laugh, which is also a bonus!!) and I share what I am feeling, a little lost. Something has knocked me sideways and I can quite place it…See that is the beauty of having a coach and being coached…a voice at the end of a phone or a welcome face over a coffee to listen, questions, facilitate and empower me.
I had begun to think my ego had gone and got way out of hand…I am no shrinking violet I know that, but what I was witnessing, experiencing, was mentors and business professionals who I looked up to and admired, possibly even to aspired to be, behaving in ways I never imagined I would experience. Then I began to think, maybe it’s not that, maybe it’s that my compass was way off and I had been looking in the wrong places or looking for the wrong things…
What transpires is simple. It is something I am very aware of and many reading this will be too…and there it is folks…the best learning’s are the life lessons that keep showing us that we are alive, they are not complicated or scientific, they are simple, powerful and right there.
We are a constant.
That was it…where I was years ago, to where I am now, where my mentors were to where they are now is just different. Not better, not worse, just different.
What I wanted then and was getting out of bed for then is not what drives me now.

And here is my compass.
I am here to inspire, educate and motivate.
To encourage the world to think and act differently, one step at a time.
I help people believe. And if you wish to dismiss that, then go and try something that you don’t believe and let me know how you get on!
My ethics and my morals bound me to only do what is right for me and my clients. I choose the game now and I can play to the level that I want, that I choose.
My mission is to help you realise the game you wish to play and importantly the level that you want to play it at.
Because life is just a game. A beautiful, emotional, passionate, romantic, harsh, humorous & real game. Step up to the plate, pick up a bat and swing…you can’t win if you don’t swing the bat, that is a fact.

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So I am extremely grateful to the path that I have chosen and the routes that it takes me every week…burning new pathways, establishing new relationships and building new opportunities to make this world better, one step at a time.
I am grateful to my coach and my clients, past present and future.
I am grateful for my health and every day that I am given to get up and make it happen.
Whatever you do, do it to your best and the best will find you back.

When you are ready to take the bat and start winning…call me. The Congruent Coach. +44(0) 1792 911881
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Social Media Doesn’t work for business…what a crock of $#!}

Recently I was asked to guest blog for an awesome media company…now I say awesome for  a few reasons:

1) Because the people involved with said media company are quite simply, awesome.

2) And more importantly, they demystify media for businesses, so we can all use the tools that the big boys do without going all gooey eyed!

3) They have fun. And when you are having fun, you attract others…we can all learn from them.

So where can you find them you ask, well, you will below part of my guest blog and the rest you will have to click the link to finish reading it…I know, devilish of me isn’t it!

Before I click you out to there page so you cant engage with this awesome team, know this, Cemanthe who runs the business, has over 200 posts, for this post, it has been shared 24 times on Facebook, had 18 Tweets, 10 Linked-In posts and has been Pinned a few times.  SO if you ever get asked to guest blog, think about it. You all benefit an its another reason to show why the title of this blog is so true…Enjoy!

 

“…what a crock of $#!@” Guest Blogger Adam Brooks brings his slightly controversial view to whether or not social media can work for business.

This phrase has no doubt been said by many people, many times, all of whom are quite simply, in denial. Here is another one for you… ‘Old dog, new tricks’

The person who actually said this to me was Head of Marketing for a large organisation in the technology and communications industry…to put in blunt…shocking!

I have been an ‘enthusiast’ of social media over the last few years and I am increasingly impressed with how it continues to reinvent itself and link up new platforms and increased access to key people of influence, that in business…I want to talk to.

I have many mentors in written form as I read many books on business and how to get better results, I train every day, just like an athlete does to achieve success in their discipline…my discipline is business, sales, profitability and most importantly…people.

And…who will you find on Twitter, Facebook, Linked-In, Pinterest, Blogs and maybe even Google + at a push?…Correct…Read more

http://newmediaangels.com/ 

 

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Which is more powerful, the gun or the lens?

I wrote in the first week of September 1997. Princess Diana had just died and the news world was thrown into silence. The calm before the storm, the paps got hammered and yet the papers rolled off with every money making spin off they could. I remember Radio 1 played the same loop of songs including the haunting theme from Merry Christmas Mr Lawrence. Click here to listen.

I was sat, parked somewhere along the spine of road network that connects our truly brilliant country and I penned this,  I was 22 years old.

Which is more powerful,

the gun or the lens?

One thing is certain,

They’re a means to an end.

Both of them active,

both of them still.

Equally powerful,

able to kill.

Hunt the rich and famous,

as if a bird of prey.

Scavenge like hyenas,

endless, night & day.

Scurry round like sewer rats,

humans are their morsels.

I wonder, are their parents proud?

Their children have ‘no’ morals!

Each of us, share the blame,

every day repeat the same.

We’re both as bad as one another,

we buy the papers and show each other.

How do we know what they say it true?

‘Cos they tell me & I tell you!

I wonder what some might say,

if they were still with us today.

We’ve lost some great people over the years,

media pressure…the pain…the tears.

The only people who gain from the lives they wreck,

are the big fat cats, with their big fat cheques.

© Adam Brooks – 1997

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The Six Enemies of Greatness

I saw this blog recently and had to share, Jessica Hagy shared this on Forbes, you can find the link at the bottom of the blog.

Simple and genius. Enjoy.

 

The Six Enemies of Greatness (and Happiness)
These six factors can erode the grandest of plans and the noblest of intentions. They can turn visionaries into paper-pushers and wide-eyed dreamers into shivering, weeping balls of regret. Beware!

 1) Availability

We often settle for what’s available, and what’s available isn’t always great. “Because it was there,” is an okay reason to climb a mountain, but not a very good reason to take a job or a free sample at the supermarket.

 2) Ignorance

If we don’t know how to make something great, we simply won’t. If we don’t know that greatness is possible, we won’t bother attempting it. All too often, we literally do not know any better than good enough.

 

 3) Committees

Nothing destroys a good idea faster than a mandatory consensus. The lowest common denominator is never a high standard.

 

 4) Comfort

Why pursue greatness when you’ve already got 324 channels and a recliner? Pass the dip and forget about your grand designs.

 

5) Momentum

If you’ve been doing what you’re doing for years and it’s not-so-great, you are in a rut. Many people refer to these ruts as careers.

 

6) Passivity

There’s a difference between being agreeable and agreeing to everything. Trust the little internal voice that tells you, “this is a bad idea.”

 

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicahagy/2012/02/28/the-six-enemies-of-greatness-and-happiness/?partner=bm?wp=59208fb0d1db78

Jessica can be found here :- http://blogs.forbes.com/jessicahagy/

Love finding new people who inspire me.

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Five Ways to Find Your Future

Five Ways to Find Your Future.

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Do You Understand Why Your Customers Buy?


 

The first thing to understand about selling is why people buy a particular product or service and what it is that they really buy. You may be surprised to learn that people buy only two things:

 

  • Good feelings

 

  • Solutions to problems

 

That means: People do not buy your golf lessons. They buy a vision of how good they will feel when they have successfully completed those lessons!

 

In other words, people always buy to satisfy their own needs and desires. This important basic premise is overlooked all too often. An instructor will try to sign up a new student based on his own playing ability, his style of teaching etc.; all things he thinks are important to the customer. Don’t make this mistake. You must see your service as it is perceived through the eyes of your customer.

 

The prospective student will gladly sign on the dotted line when he senses that your teaching will bring him enjoyment and/or provide a solution to any perceived problem he is currently experiencing. When you make helping the customer your first consideration, you will find the stress of having to sell becomes a thing of the past, and in its place you will enjoy the satisfaction of having helped another person. Therefore, if you are to make a successful sales presentation, you must first find out the problems your prospective student needs you to solve, and what feelings he hopes to obtain from your golf lessons.

 

Some of the more common buying motives are:

 

  • The need to feel secure.

 

  • The need to feel appreciated, (a most important need).

 

  • The need to eliminate or lessen fear, (real or perceived).

 

  • The need to have good feelings, (happiness, fun, pleasure).

 

  • The need to enhance self-image.

 

  • The need to improve, grow and enjoy new experiences.

 

How buying motives are expressed

 

Your prospect is not about to come right out and tell you what his motives are. You have to deduce this information through a series of carefully worded questions. In interviewing a prospective student, you will often hear these needs and desires expressed as:

 

  • I want to be more confident in my ability, (eliminate fear of failure).

 

  • I want to have fun, (enjoyment).I want to improve my self-image, (security, improvement).

 

  • I want to solve a particular problem, (growth, improvement).

 

  • I need to feel important, (security).

 

  • I want to be respected, (security).

 

  • I want to be successful, (improvement)

 

  • I want to experience something new, (enjoyment).

 

  • I want to be liked by others, (appreciation).

 

  • I want to make new friends, (appreciation).

 

  • I want encouragement, (appreciation).

 

By listening intently to discover your prospect’s true motives, you can then structure your sales presentation to reinforce these motives and provide answers that meet his objectives. When a prospect can clearly see that he has something to gain by enrolling in your teaching program, he will gladly sign up.

 

Many people think of selling as a distasteful, stressful and manipulative activity. True, most of us resent having a product or service forced upon us and would not want to do the same to others. Nearly everyone, however, enjoys the satisfaction experienced from helping others. Selling doesn’t have to be manipulative.
Instead, focus on what the customer really wants and try to match those needs to what you have to offer. If necessary, see if you can modify your current program to accommodate this customer.

 

Finally, if you genuinely can’t fulfill his needs, refer him to someone who can, and let him know you would like to be of service to him in the future. It may seem as if we’re telling you to deliberately lose a sale by sending a potential customer to your competitors. However, the referrals you will get back and the reputation you will earn as an honest, sincere business person will more than compensate. Often the customer will come back to you anyway, just because he likes your attitude and frankness.

 

Everyone likes to buy, but no one likes to be ‘sold.’

 

Think about it. When you make a sound purchase and get complemented on your decision, you are more than happy to take responsibility for the purchase. But buy something that you later regret, perhaps because you were sold something not in your best interest, and you will feel, “I got a bad deal at that place.”

 

The point? Keep your customer’s best interests in mind when making your sales presentation. Reinforce the benefits you offer that are appropriate to his needs. Make your customer feel good about himself and his decision to enroll in your program.

 

“I think you’ll be really happy with the results we can achieve for you, John. I look forward to seeing you Tuesday morning.”

 

Adopt the above attitude toward selling, and combine this with the sales skills presented I’ll share with you next month and you will find selling to be a very rewarding and stress free activity. You will enjoy what you are doing more and your customers will definitely appreciate you for it.

 

Six qualities of a sales conscious person

 

  1. A sales-oriented person must be a ‘people person’, accepting everyone at face value without prejudices or limitations.

 

  1. Be open and friendly in the words you choose, your tone of voice and your body language.

 

  1. Be patient, and listen attentively to your customer’s wants and needs.

 

  1. Show genuine interest and respect. Make your customer feel important.

 

  1. Show appreciation for your customer, and continue to be appreciative even after he has enrolled.

 

  1. Remember a potential customer’s name and use it to create a bond.

 

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Show me

Don’t tell me you trust me, show me.
Don’t tell me you respect me, show me.
Don’t tell me you love me, show me.

Don’t tell me I inspire you, show me.
Don’t tell me I motivate you, show me.
Don’t tell me I push you forward, show me.

Don’t tell me it’s possible, show me.
Don’t tell me it’s easy, show me.
Don’t tell me you’ve done it, show me.

Tell me YOU and I close off to the world.
Show me YOU and I will show you the world.

Show me – by Adam Brooks

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You get in life what you expect….not what you want!

“Nobody succeeds beyond his or her wildest expectations unless he
or she begins with some wild expectations.” – RALPH CHARELL

What are your expectations for your life? Are you excited about your future or are you facing it with apprehension and fear? For most people the future holds too many uncertainties and the fear of what might happens tends to overshadow the ray of light that represents the life they ultimately desire. One of the hardest things to do in life is to lift yourself out of your current circumstance and step up to the level of life you desire.

We all live with an unconscious expectation of ourselves and our own lives. This expectation not only determines what we have in our lives but it also represents what we are willing to settle for. Expectation is a very powerful emotion and one that very few people ever learn to fully cultivate. Whatever you expect with certainty is what you will get in your life. Expectation is the emotional state where an idea becomes so real that you feel it even though you can’t hold it yet. Expectation is like an invisible magnet that will attract into your life that which you expect. When you expect something you activate and engage those parts of your mind and your nervous system that can empower you to think the unthinkable and do the undoable. One of the most powerful ways to cultivate expectation is to develop a very clear vision for your life.

Most people never even make the time to really define what they want from their lives, but even those who do follow the hope and pray strategy. They kind of know what they want but they don’t believe they can have it, so they hope that something will happen and come along their life path to fulfil their desires. Expectation however, is a completely different mindset. It is a mindset of absolute certainty that can be consciously cultivated. Inherent in hoping there is a sense of doubt as you always hold two opposing results in your minds eye. When you expect something you know it is definitely happening. The very focus of your mind dwells upon one definite end result. To turn a hope into an expectation, you simply eliminate doubt and fear by eliminating the opposing outcome. Instead of “seeing” something fail or succeed, you now only see the success. With expectation your actions, your words and your imagination dwells upon and reflects you already having and being exactly what you want. When you expect something you remove the doubt that is inherent in hoping.

When a mother to be is pregnant we would say that she is expecting. In other words she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt exactly what’s going to happen. Although some of the details are still unclear she is certain about the fact that she will have a baby and not something unknown. On an emotional level she can feel the result because she is expecting it although she can’t see and touch it yet. What you expect for your life is exactly like that. When you start to expect for your life that which you absolutely desire your whole mindset turns from an uncertain hoping and wishing to the certainty of expecting. The images you encourage and entertain in your minds eye, what you say to yourself and everybody else reflects only the results you are committed to.

Most people expect the worst and hope for the best. Our cultural conditioning has thought us things like “don’t get your hopes up” – just in case you might be disappointed. We’ve been taught to aim as low as possible. Everything above that will be a bonus. Right? Wrong! Remember that what you expect with certainty is what you will get in your life. You have to break away from the autopilot of the masses that just settle for an ordinary life; a life where they are not really happy but they are not unhappy to do something about it. If you want to lift your life and the quality of your life to a higher level than what it is at the moment you need to start by raising your expectations. Raise your expectations of what you are as a person and what you believe you deserve. See, what you believe you deserve is based on your expectations. When you lift your expectations to a higher level you raise your own standards and raising your standards is the first step to improving your life.

When you expect only the very best you will get only the very best. What you earn right now is what you expect to earn. The amount of free time you have right now is what you expect to have as free time. The relationships you have are what you expect it to be. When you expect the best it’s not like expecting something good or something similar, but it is the best and only the best. You have to stop settling for less than you can be or have. On a deep psychological level this is exactly what creates your expectations and that is why a lifetime of settling for less than you can be creates an expectation that is only “o.k”. It becomes the standard that you are willing to settle for. Think of yourself as the pregnant mother who expects (not hopes) only the best and with her imagination she is able to “live” the result in magnificent detail until she eventually has the experience of physically holding her “expectation”. You have to nurture and care for your desires and only by becoming unreasonable in your expectations can you turn your deepest desires into reality. Expectations are ideas that are build on solid rock. They are unshakeable; unlike hopes and wishes that will wash away with the first storm that comes along.

You need no special skills or knowledge to raise your expectations. You simply need a decision that from this point onwards you will never again settle for anything less than you can possible be. The difference between hoping for something with uncertainty and depending on something with expectation is nothing but the way you control and direct the focus of your mind. What you say to yourself, the images you imagine and your behaviour are what you can consciously control and direct. But, only if you choose to. If not, you will revert back to the autopilot of the masses just go with the flow of “whatever” comes along. The cultural autopilot is the emotional default and only through conscious and consistent nurturing of your desires and emotions can you live life by your own standards and create the expectations that will lead you to a life abundance and fulfilment.

Great expectations create great results. When you expect the best it will become a directional mechanism that will guide you to seeking out and finding what you expect. The difference between great expectations and weak hopes is nothing but a mindset; a mindset that can make the difference between living a life of fulfilment and one of desperation and frustration. Create the expectation by making sincere decisions. Nurture your expectations by never settling for anything less than the best.

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Talking to yourself is ‘the’ way

This morning before my day really kicked in, I was scanning my Facebook wall for interesting content, when I came across a blog from my friend Anna Lang (http://anna-lang-self-love.blogspot.com/).

 

It reminded me of a recent blog of mine and one that triggered a longer memory somewhere deep in my random little head and I searched it out for you. Thomas Turner shared back in 2009 and is a specialist in cognitive re-imprinting and hypnotherapy. Enjoy.

 

In today’s negative world, having a positive outlook on life can do wonders for you. It can literally change your life if you’re consistent. Many people understand this fact, but still struggle to make it work.

Their subconscious mind still keeps sending those negative thoughts to dwell on. How can you reprogram your subconscious mind for positive results? Here are the top five ways to reprogram your subconscious mind.

1. Positive Self-talk

This is the key to changing your life. You need to believe you are a better person. You need to understand that the only thing holding you back is YOU! So, the way you start is by being positive. Listen to your inner self-talk, and realize when you are being negative or putting yourself down.

Change your “I can’t…”, “I don’t know how…”, and “I’ll never be…” to positive self-talk like “I can…”, “I will…”, and “I am…” This seems simple, and ultimately it is. This simply first step will start to change your life for the better.

2. Visualise Your New Positive Life

 

Start by lying down in a quiet place. Turn off the lights to avoid any distractions. Now, take deep breaths, and tense up your entire body. Then, one body part at a time starting from your toes, relax that body part.

Once you are starting to feel relaxed, visualise yourself in the position you want your life to end up. Make sure to include yourself in these visualisations. It’s important that you make these images as real as possible for your subconscious to believe in what you are trying to accomplish. Once you feel at peace, move onto step 3.

3. Know What You Want

You have to know what you want out of yourself and your life. Not knowing where you’re going or what you are working for makes it hard for you to know which path you need to take to get there.

After you know what you want, focus on one want at a time. Accomplish that want then move on to a new want. This will allow for greater success. After you do all this move onto step 4.

4. Come Up With Some Affirmations

Affirmations can do you a world of good. The reason that they usually don’t work for some people is because they forget to do them consistently. Find a way to remind yourself and you will succeed.

5. Use Your Other Senses

Don’t just write them down once and forget about them. Write them out as often as possible. There’s something about actually writing them out that helps clarify things in your mind. It reprograms your subconscious to help you get what you really want. Write them down every day and you will supercharge your effectiveness.

Reprogramming your subconscious mind with these 5 easy steps, you will be able to see your accomplishments on paper, hear it in the affirmations, you will feel it in your visualization, it won’t be long until you make all of your wants from pictures, images, and your imagination into a reality. Your mind is a powerful tool we should all use. It these steps will make it as simple as 1, 2, 3, 4, 5!
Now that is worth thinking about!

 

Applying You  – You; Simply Better

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Do or do not….there is no try

Do or do not…there is no try – Yoda, Star Wars Episode IV

Most will know the title of this, so how does it relate to you. Today, tomorrow, forever.

Well, at what point do we really become accountable for our actions? At what point do we stand on our own two feet? When do we begin making our own way in life?

You may have different views on this matter. As a father, husband and a coach, I also have a view. Allow me to presuppose we are looking at this with different viewpoints. Please read this next statement three times.

“This is my map of the world, it is not THE map of the THE world, purely mine. You have your own map of the world.”

Having read that three times, I want you to ask yourself this question?

Do I have a map of the world?

Have I defined my map? Does my map change? Should it change? What do I do if it does change?

Questions like these and many more will come your way, you have to be prepared to know how to respond to these questions and be ready for the next. So how do you know, how can you prepare?

Ultimately you control all of the above. As soon as you can define the difference between right and wrong you begin to take accountability for your actions and decisions…it’s up to you to develop your ‘tools’ to enable you to better yourself and achieve what you want to achieve.

Here are a few of my favourite ‘tools’ to develop (be clear this is not an exhaustive list)

Behaviour: This is what you display to the outside world. Your thoughts manifested into actions, your actions and decisions creating the response you get from other people. This is made up of both conscious and sub-conscious thoughts. When communicating with other people and the outside world we want to portray a message, an image or an identity, however, whereas sometimes we create the response we want, many times we will not….how much of that do we actually control?

As a minimum if there are two people in the conversation then at least 50%…i believe you have more. I learned over time that the true measure of my communication is the response I get. Therefore to better the response I got, I chose to take more control and develop skills that we can all learn. Skills such as body language, non-verbal communications, modalities, the power of language and the effect it can have on those around us as well as ourselves.

Identities: As we grow, we develop a series of ‘identities’ toward aspects of our life. The first real identity that we become aware of is at school. Who we are, how we fit in, how we are different, are we leading or following in the group, how do we compare with our peers?

For example, are you good at sport? Remember back to physical education at school. Were you told you could play for the county and encouraged to do well or did you hear that you were behind and not as quick as the other kids or the classic what you lack in skill you can make up for in effort?

How do you think either of those influences would affect your performance and in turn complete your identity toward schooling. If constantly told you are good at football and yet you lose a game…you won’t question yourself first, more likely the game, other players or even the ref! If you were told you were poor at football you would be more likely to accept the result as you were ‘expecting it’…..identity re-affirmed!

Ability: Your skills, knowledge and application of both in repeat succession will lead to developing your ability. If you started to mountain climb today, I can guarantee you would make mistakes that an experienced climber would not. You need to learn in this way to become a better climber, you can’t just read or theorise about climbing you have to do it. You will tire quickly, and strain muscles because you begin climbing with your muscles and clinging to the mountain (or rope) using all your strength. As your knowledge grows, you begin to ask better informed questions, try more calculated moves till you realise you climb with your skeleton. It’s the frame that holds your body together, therefore when climbing, your straight skeleton will take your weight and save muscle use, meaning you can climb higher and longer. The same is to be said in life.

Dreams: Dream it, believe it, achieve it. Set your goals high and do not accept ‘You cant’ as that is other peoples limitations being forced on you. Just because ‘they’ may not be able to do something, they have no right to restrict your ability. For something to become a reality you have to first dream it….then as you begin to believe it, it starts to become more real….you start to verbalise it to yourself and then to others….then it’s closer than you realise as your brain now starts to find ways to make it happen. Goals are great, but conscious thoughts on achieving goals, can be sabotaged by sub-conscious thoughts of you not achieving goals in the past….so dream and dream big, set your sights and go get it.

And finally…

Application: When all is said and done. If I lit a candle in a room for of people and asked everyone to concentrate with their mind, concentrate hard and if we all believe we can make the candle go out with the power of our minds alone….we will be there for a long time! You have to get off your backside, show up (not just turn up) at every opportunity and keep going if you really want it. You have to apply yourself. Practice, practice, practice. Where was David Beckham when his friends were skulking off round the shop…he was kicking a ball against a wall, setting himself challenges and getting better and better…now in his late 30’s, still a professional football player…watch him during warm up or in training or out playing with his children. That discipline, that focus, that desire to be the best at what he is passionate about is as strong today as it has always been.

Once you defined what it is you want to achieve, you can begin the journey of developing your skills and knowledge. As you apply them you will form identities, values and beliefs that will drive you behaviour and ultimately shape the results you see in your life. It truly is, up to you. You can define, develop and deliver on what your map will be.

Now that is worth thinking about!

Applying You – You; Simply Better

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