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I feel naked…

…and not in a good way!

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So when is it OK and not OK to be naked…for me I love getting my kit off, probably because I am an exhibitionist, or more to the truth, I really do like to kick back and shed the weekday attire and feel the sand between my toes and the elements on my skin, but that naked is OK…I am asking about the feeling you have when someone you have looked up to and aspire to be as good as if not better turns out to be….well to quote a phrase ‘not all that’

I guess the only way I could feel any more naked is if, there were others.

Thousands of people pose in the nude for

Others, who on the outside or from a distance have a good ‘show’ a presence, a swagger, a reputation and integrity.
OH NO…it has happened….Like Icarus, I clearly got to close…and substance – missing, ability – lacking and integrity – do not pass go, do not collect £200.
So there I am about to spiral…now which way do I go…?
Up and risk the ego taking over?
Or down and risk the ever too faithful human sabotage take over…Oh wait there is another way…of course there is…because I AM CONGRUENT.

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Congruent I hear you ask? Yes, Congruent. A mid-15th century Latin word Congruentum meaning ‘to come together, agree, correspond with’ A word that I use regularly with clients and myself. To me it means simply this. For me to be the best coach I can be, I need to be coached.

I need to understand how it feels when someone holds the mirror up and I am there, looking in, squirming…
I need to understand how I feel when I am being questioned about what I have or haven’t done to result in what I currently have or am.
I need to understand how empowered I feel when I am aided in reaching the point I need to reach to make it happen
I need to create my own solutions and have someone who I can bounce off, an outside voice who will not be my ‘yes man’ and help me see how it really is….
..Show me when challenges need facing and when brilliance exactly that, brilliance.

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So I turn to my coach, I am naked (they don’t laugh, which is also a bonus!!) and I share what I am feeling, a little lost. Something has knocked me sideways and I can quite place it…See that is the beauty of having a coach and being coached…a voice at the end of a phone or a welcome face over a coffee to listen, questions, facilitate and empower me.
I had begun to think my ego had gone and got way out of hand…I am no shrinking violet I know that, but what I was witnessing, experiencing, was mentors and business professionals who I looked up to and admired, possibly even to aspired to be, behaving in ways I never imagined I would experience. Then I began to think, maybe it’s not that, maybe it’s that my compass was way off and I had been looking in the wrong places or looking for the wrong things…
What transpires is simple. It is something I am very aware of and many reading this will be too…and there it is folks…the best learning’s are the life lessons that keep showing us that we are alive, they are not complicated or scientific, they are simple, powerful and right there.
We are a constant.
That was it…where I was years ago, to where I am now, where my mentors were to where they are now is just different. Not better, not worse, just different.
What I wanted then and was getting out of bed for then is not what drives me now.

And here is my compass.
I am here to inspire, educate and motivate.
To encourage the world to think and act differently, one step at a time.
I help people believe. And if you wish to dismiss that, then go and try something that you don’t believe and let me know how you get on!
My ethics and my morals bound me to only do what is right for me and my clients. I choose the game now and I can play to the level that I want, that I choose.
My mission is to help you realise the game you wish to play and importantly the level that you want to play it at.
Because life is just a game. A beautiful, emotional, passionate, romantic, harsh, humorous & real game. Step up to the plate, pick up a bat and swing…you can’t win if you don’t swing the bat, that is a fact.

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So I am extremely grateful to the path that I have chosen and the routes that it takes me every week…burning new pathways, establishing new relationships and building new opportunities to make this world better, one step at a time.
I am grateful to my coach and my clients, past present and future.
I am grateful for my health and every day that I am given to get up and make it happen.
Whatever you do, do it to your best and the best will find you back.

When you are ready to take the bat and start winning…call me. The Congruent Coach. +44(0) 1792 911881

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Social Media Doesn’t work for business…what a crock of $#!}

Recently I was asked to guest blog for an awesome media company…now I say awesome for  a few reasons:

1) Because the people involved with said media company are quite simply, awesome.

2) And more importantly, they demystify media for businesses, so we can all use the tools that the big boys do without going all gooey eyed!

3) They have fun. And when you are having fun, you attract others…we can all learn from them.

So where can you find them you ask, well, you will below part of my guest blog and the rest you will have to click the link to finish reading it…I know, devilish of me isn’t it!

Before I click you out to there page so you cant engage with this awesome team, know this, Cemanthe who runs the business, has over 200 posts, for this post, it has been shared 24 times on Facebook, had 18 Tweets, 10 Linked-In posts and has been Pinned a few times.  SO if you ever get asked to guest blog, think about it. You all benefit an its another reason to show why the title of this blog is so true…Enjoy!

 

“…what a crock of $#!@” Guest Blogger Adam Brooks brings his slightly controversial view to whether or not social media can work for business.

This phrase has no doubt been said by many people, many times, all of whom are quite simply, in denial. Here is another one for you… ‘Old dog, new tricks’

The person who actually said this to me was Head of Marketing for a large organisation in the technology and communications industry…to put in blunt…shocking!

I have been an ‘enthusiast’ of social media over the last few years and I am increasingly impressed with how it continues to reinvent itself and link up new platforms and increased access to key people of influence, that in business…I want to talk to.

I have many mentors in written form as I read many books on business and how to get better results, I train every day, just like an athlete does to achieve success in their discipline…my discipline is business, sales, profitability and most importantly…people.

And…who will you find on Twitter, Facebook, Linked-In, Pinterest, Blogs and maybe even Google + at a push?…Correct…Read more

http://newmediaangels.com/ 

 

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End of men in business….Poppycock!

Having seen some of the press this week that chartered the end for men in business, triggered by Hanna Rosin’s new book ‘End of Men’ where she highlights mans lack of want to change from old gender roles. I wanted to share this piece by Joanna Judd I saw a little while back. As men so say struggle to balance work and life balance, so do women. As women so say struggle to balance the guilt of good parent and business person, so do men. We have similar challenges yet we are very different in our make up and how we re perceived.

Women are beautiful beings! Your natural feminine energy is to be soft and vulnerable which can be difficult to maintain in the masculine world of business. The challenge for women in business in the 21st century is to remain feminine whilst still being strong, in control and independent.

As you know, men and women are different and we wouldn’t want it any other why. Whilst we should all be treated equally, we are not identical or the same. It’s the differences that make us ultimately complement each other and when you understand the differences you can use them to your advantage when dealing with men and women.

What’s the main difference between men and women? Its hormones. Testosterone is what makes a man a man and oestrogen is what makes a woman a woman. Hormones flow through our body influencing not only how we deal with things physically but also emotionally. Whilst men and women can demonstrate both masculine and feminine qualities, men essentially have a masculine energy and women, a feminine energy.

The business world is largely a man’s world, charged with masculine energy and men have always been part of it. Men are raised to know they will always work and that business is the natural place for them to be a man. Until recent times, women always knew their work place would be their home and family and as a society we accepted the roles that both men and women filled.

Economic times have changed however so whilst men remain in their “natural” workplace and energy space, women today have dual workplaces of both home and business requiring them to be multi-dimensional, moving constantly between the traditional male and female energy spaces. To be a man in business he just needs to be a man and be in his masculine energy. To be a woman in business, she needs to move out of her feminine energy into her masculine energy and if not given the opportunity to stay connected with her feminine energy, a woman can end up feeling disempowered from who she really is: a woman.

Surveys on what drives or motivates men and women, regularly show that the top three motivating factors for men are: sex, power and achievement. For women, it’s security, relationships and love. This generally explains why for 87% of men, work is the most important area of their life, whilst for women, it’s only 5%. If money was not an issue, the majority of women say they would choose not to work, preferring to do something for the fun or enjoyment of it.

For example….sampling the delights of the GUCCI on their page below (click the link…some heavenly things there)

or perhaps…

This is not advocating that women should not be in business or want to be in business – there are many, many women in business achieving excellent results and loving what they do. The challenge for women is to remain naturally feminine whilst working in a largely masculine business world.

Men need space to be a man and women need space to be a woman. Knowing this, the different energies of men and women can be bought into play within a company so that everyone benefits. For example, whilst the competitive male energy will keep a company focused and moving forward, feminine energy will keep a team working together. The two energies complement each other to the benefit of everyone.

Naturally soft and nurturing, women step out of this feminine energy each day to participate in a masculine world of power and achievement. The toll for women is when they are not able to easily return to their natural energy state, is that this can often cause clashes in partner and family relationships. Men are attracted to the feminine energy of a women (it allows them to be more masculine) and having spent a day in the battlefield of business, they yearn to come home to the soft, nurturing energy of their partner and home: it’s what creates the balance in their lives. So if their partner is still powering along in her masculine energy, men can feel home is not the safe place they were looking forward to retreating to, and stress can prevail.

For women, stepping out of that masculine work energy does not always happen the instant you put your briefcase down and change out of your suit. It takes time to let go of the day’s issues and soften. Both men and women need to be aware of the energy shift that women are required to do each day and make space and time for this change at the end of each day. A loving hug to welcome each other home is a simple and ideal way to initiate the energy shift and reconnect as a man and a woman.

The business world is no longer the sole domain of men. Women are valid participants adding great and unique value and business benefits tremendously from the blending and melding of masculine and feminine energies. The key for women however is being able to step out of the business world is to re-emerge into the beautiful, feminine energy that makes you women. Consider a hug: hug your partner, your children and life!

Or as the legendary Phil Evans would say….”Fancy a Cwtsh?” (click his picture and you’ll see)

So if the end of the world is nigh for men….according the the press this week, just remember we have lived in relative harmony for centuries from the cave to boardroom. We need each other t survive and evolve…so to me it is about us, not ‘them and us’

Applying You….You; Simply better.

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How do I get more business?

I hear this a lot from business owners I meet.  “How do I get more business?”

Well, without offending their gentle souls…here is an idea, it may seem radical, revolutionary and perhaps even Lunacy, so I will whisper it…

“get out from behind your desk and laptop screen and go and find people”

OK, in case you didn’t hear or it didn’t sink in, I will have to shout it aloud

“GET OUT FROM BEHIND YOUR DESK AND LAPTOP SCREEN AND GO AND FIND PEOPLE”

Social media is a brilliant tool, the telephone is a brilliant tool, email is a brilliant tool. But in my life, I have seen trends, fads and the next big thing come and fizzle away…what remains through time is the whites of the eyes, the smile when you greet someone, the handshake, the nerves just before the initial meet, the little voices giving you advice and checking,

“is my right hand free”

“are my hands clammy”

“am i flying low!”

Face to face meetings, networking, exhibitions, speednetworking, seminars and workshops, peers. You can invest your time focusing on actually meeting people and taking your company, your brand, yourself to the people. And you could do each of these separately OR you could leverage your time….How?

Allow me to introduce to you Neil & Tracey Davis. A client of mine who are passionate beyond belief in creating, building and developing proactive, productive business relationships with a unique fusion with all of the above.

So far they are rocking their business shows in the UK which combines the style of exhibitions and networking, with educational seminars, speakers, speednetworking and over 100 plus businesses at every show keen to meet, greet and ‘do’ business in the room.

Yesterday they ‘Rocked’ Gloucester at the Cheltenham Chase Hotel. A brilliant venue, easily to locate, plenty of parking, friendly & efficient staff and fab scenery! A great indication of a vibrant, active and results orientated show is when people turn up at the beginning of the day, are still there in the afternoon and follow up meetings post show are happening in the bar…yesterday had all that in spades.

From the moment you arrive you are greeted by a positive vibe and grown up, friendly fun approach to doing business. The reception crew were ace. Tracey and Neil greet everyone (believe me that is no small feat) and they go further than that. Prior to the show they get to know their exhibitors well. Their network is also strong, so the delegates tend to be on first name terms, if not, it certainly doesn’t take long. This means when Neil and Tracey say you to, “I want you to meet someone” it is because they truly do. They can see, how what you do, could benefit the person they wish to introduce you too and vice versa. A networking masterclass happening right before your eyes (take time to notice and learn from these guys).

As you entered yesterday you were greeted by the shows sponsor Complete Vending Services (CVS) with their awesome coffee machines. http://www.completevendingservices.co.uk/ are a preferred distributor of Douwe Egberts. I think it is safe to say ‘A major hit’ with all exhibitors and delegates. One important note to add here, if you are in business, their solution is affordable, very high quality and with the touchscreen coffee machine will leave a lasting impression on any visitor or customer coming to your premises.

Let’s run around the room and pick out some highlights for you… Phil M Jones was one of the speakers yesterday, with his ‘Forward to basics’ educational workshop on Sales. Phil, a Sales Professional who trains and coaches businesses and their teams in Sales and Business Growth. www.philmjones.com

Then we had http://www.carsondemand.co.uk/, with over thirty years experience in the motor industry, Cars on Demand are specialists in the supply of Short Term Contract Hire and Leasing. Our Flexible Contract Hire and Leasing products include the supply of both Cars and Vans. Whether you are looking for a flexible business solution or flexible personal lease, our small dedicated team offer you the ultimate in flexibility, service and value for money.

Who could miss the ‘Ladies in Red’ from http://www.redvirtualoffice.biz/ RED is a professional, first class customer service focused business team. They are an affordable outsourced service provider, giving you time to concentrate ‘on’ your business, while they work ‘in’ it. Find out how they can help you whether you are in the start up phase or an established business, their service and your budget can fit very well.

While we are talking about passionate people, if you have never invested any time with Robin Cook of http://www.fheconsulting.com/ then you haven’t lived. This guy has bounds of passion for his gifts and he has many of them, IT being one of them. Anyone that can engage with you and not lose you when it comes to IT gets my vote, Robin,  I will be asking you to quote soon.

Someone else who I met Friday, (we speed dated….doh, speed networked!) and never got round to chatting more as the day was busy with delegates, is David Holland of http://exela.co.uk/ and I mention David as not only am I hearing good things about him personally, but as a Sales Professional myself I always bang on about systems and process for sales people on top of charm will make a sales person dangerous (in a very good way). Infusionsoft® is the world’s best and fastest growing Marketing & Sales Automation software for the small to midsize company.  Infusionsoft®provides you with the tools you need to capture leads, both online & offline; nurture those leads and then turn them into sales.

For those who saw the video for the Bristol Show, will know this next guy. Richard Snell of http://www.lister-communications.co.uk/ who are probably Gloucestershire longest standing reseller of mobile and fixed voice and data services for businesses. No business can survive without communicating, so pick up the phone to Richard and let him sort your telecoms out. One question, who won the ipad?

If you have received an email from the BGS group then you will have seen what http://www.sentori.co.uk/ can do for your business. Email Campaigns, click throughs, marketing and measurables so you can drive volume to your business.

If email campaigns are not your thing yet picking up the phone to business owners and key decision makers is…the only question then is ‘Do I have the data?’  You do now, http://www.b2bleadforce.com/getting-started/ £25 a month gets you access to the UK’s biggest B2B database and it is simple enough to use (even I could!) Give Rupert a call and sit down with him, so he can WOW you with the awesome potential and simplicity of B2B Leadforce.

We also had our very own ITN and BBC qualified cameraman and video producer Alastair in the room.

http://www.sunflowerfilms.org/ a guy who sells what he loves and love his craft he does. With the increase of video in marketing for your business, I would book him before he goes into production!

And finally, before I introduce you to the family that is building in the bottom right hand corner of the room on Friday, I give you Paul Spicer of http://www.lnpsound.com/home/ This guy never stops. Audio, visual, PA systems, video and all round networker. Paul is everywhere. Anyone who has ever used a PA system for speaking or a plasma screen for exhibiting will know, your conversion rate increases when you do. Invest in your business and show you prospective customer you are serious about your business and theirs.

And now, to the family (which makes me sound very Corleone) that is developing all the time.

http://www.talking2minds.co.uk/ are an amazing charity who support ex military. Talking2Minds is leading the way in the effective management and treatment of PTSD and other severe stress related conditions. Their unique programme is key in creating positive outcomes for those that suffer from severe stress related conditions including PTSD. They also support family members and partners that may suffer by proxy/ secondary stress. They specialise in helping complex cases and long term sufferers for whom other approaches have not worked and the mental scars have not healed.

http://www.officedoctors.co.uk/ are far more than de-clutter specialists. They assist people and business to get order in their lives. This comes in many forms from enhancing your knowledge or productivity through to organisation of your information, de-cluttering and organisational layout. The best bit, is the people who carry it out. You wont know until you experience the, so get in touch. Simple.

http://www.ethosdevelopmentltd.com/ Michelle makes an impact wherever she goes. Ethos Development – The Business Generation Machine. Everything that ETHOS does has a shared end objective. The Generation of New Business.

And our End to End solutions for businesses. We recruit YOUR sales and marketing professionals. Then we train YOUR sales and marketing professionals to reach their optimum performance levels. We then coach YOUR team to keep them there.

All that is left for me too say is, if you are not on the list above, come and make yourself known next time. If you want to know how to get more business, get off your backside and go get it. Come to the next show and showcase YOU.

Neil and Tracey – take a bow. Lets rock Cheltenham in September.

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Open heart surgery and sales!

In general we tend to hold certain people or certain professions in high regard. In the majority of cases that is justified, however, in a number of cases throughout our life we are conditioned or become conditioned to take certain people or professions in high regard without really checking their credentials.

For example, when we need our car fixed we take it to a garage and we fall into a ritual routine of behaviours…we behave how we feel we should when we take our car to a garage.

We either

“act like we know something/anything about cars and begin telling the ‘would be’ expert what we believe is wrong with it, despite having no mechanical knowledge to write home about”

Or

“admit we know nothing about cars and lay our soul bare to the ‘Keyser Soze’ of the car mechanics invoice books”

The same is said when we go to the doctors or find ourselves in the hospital. We lose control. Not in a running around with wild hair screaming uncontrollably or sit in a chiar rocking with pencils up our nostrils way…we simply have little to no power in those situations and therefore lose control.

My question to the world is…….should we?  

Let me take you through a scenario and at the end of the scenario I will ask you a question to answer honestly.

The scenario isthis. You wake up one day feeling queezy, and decide to visit the quacks and get an MOT, when you are advised there is an abnormal finding on your heart. They refer you to the hospital with efficiency not seen in the NHS for over 40 years. Impressed by the speed of the service briefly outshines the weighty thought that is growing on your mind on your way to see the specialist. That thought being…why so quick?

You meet with the specialist and he advises the following:

You have a challenge with your heart, that despite being very serious, can almost certainly be rectified with open heart surgery within the next 72 hours. He introduces by name the surgeon who will be carrying out the procedure.

Dr Brown here is THE pioneer of open heart surgery. He pioneered the technique over 40 years ago.

(All very positive so far)

However, this is your heart and you only have one. So like me, you feel the need to ask this guy some questions to ‘test his metal’ as opposed to just accepting he is the best person to carry out the life threatening procedure just because he has cold hands, wears a white coat and his mate recommended him (too cynical!…perhaps)

Through asking questions you you uncover a few facts:

Since pioneering open heart surgery over 40 years ago, Dr Brown continues to use the same techniques he used to pioneer open heart surgery all those years ago.

Since this time, Dr Brown has never attended any medical seminars, advising on developments in open heart surgery. None in 40 years.

Since this time, Dr Brown has not read any medical journals or kept up to date with any enhancements or developments in open heart surgery. None in 40 years.

In fact he is doing as he says, using the same techniques he used to test and perfect open heart surgery over 40 years ago.

My question to you is this…

How comfortable are you now in going under the knife with Dr Brown within 72 hours?

(answer below in your replies please. )

If ‘Yes’ please highlight why

If ‘No’ please highlight why

 

 

 

Now that is worth thinking about!

Applying You  – You; Simply Better

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Five Ways to Find Your Future

Five Ways to Find Your Future.

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7 Steps to Conquer fear

In her book, “Conquer Fear!”, Lisa Jimenez, a professional speaker, lists “The Seven Truths” that can help anyone harness and overcome their fears.  I’ve paraphrased them for you here:

 

Truth #1

 

Fear is the dominant challenge in your life today.

 

 

Truth #2

 

Fear is a “gift” that was instilled in you as a means of protection, and a way to bring you closer to your “higher power.”

 

 

Truth #3

 

When you run from, or deny your fear, you leave that “gift” unopened.

 

 

Truth #4

 

When your fear of success, or fear of failure is exposed, you break through the control they have over you.

 

 

Truth #5

 

Your belief system is the driving force behind your behaviours and your results.

 

 

Truth #6

 

Your everyday habits broadcast your belief system, your fears, and your unmet needs, loud and clear, for other to “pick up.”

 

 

Truth #7

 

Change your beliefs (the way you think) and you change your behaviours (which are a reflection of the way you feel).  Change your behaviours (feelings) and you change your results. Change your results and you change your life.  It’s the only way you can…

 

 

…and that’s worth thinking about, isn’t it.

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You get in life what you expect….not what you want!

“Nobody succeeds beyond his or her wildest expectations unless he
or she begins with some wild expectations.” – RALPH CHARELL

What are your expectations for your life? Are you excited about your future or are you facing it with apprehension and fear? For most people the future holds too many uncertainties and the fear of what might happens tends to overshadow the ray of light that represents the life they ultimately desire. One of the hardest things to do in life is to lift yourself out of your current circumstance and step up to the level of life you desire.

We all live with an unconscious expectation of ourselves and our own lives. This expectation not only determines what we have in our lives but it also represents what we are willing to settle for. Expectation is a very powerful emotion and one that very few people ever learn to fully cultivate. Whatever you expect with certainty is what you will get in your life. Expectation is the emotional state where an idea becomes so real that you feel it even though you can’t hold it yet. Expectation is like an invisible magnet that will attract into your life that which you expect. When you expect something you activate and engage those parts of your mind and your nervous system that can empower you to think the unthinkable and do the undoable. One of the most powerful ways to cultivate expectation is to develop a very clear vision for your life.

Most people never even make the time to really define what they want from their lives, but even those who do follow the hope and pray strategy. They kind of know what they want but they don’t believe they can have it, so they hope that something will happen and come along their life path to fulfil their desires. Expectation however, is a completely different mindset. It is a mindset of absolute certainty that can be consciously cultivated. Inherent in hoping there is a sense of doubt as you always hold two opposing results in your minds eye. When you expect something you know it is definitely happening. The very focus of your mind dwells upon one definite end result. To turn a hope into an expectation, you simply eliminate doubt and fear by eliminating the opposing outcome. Instead of “seeing” something fail or succeed, you now only see the success. With expectation your actions, your words and your imagination dwells upon and reflects you already having and being exactly what you want. When you expect something you remove the doubt that is inherent in hoping.

When a mother to be is pregnant we would say that she is expecting. In other words she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt exactly what’s going to happen. Although some of the details are still unclear she is certain about the fact that she will have a baby and not something unknown. On an emotional level she can feel the result because she is expecting it although she can’t see and touch it yet. What you expect for your life is exactly like that. When you start to expect for your life that which you absolutely desire your whole mindset turns from an uncertain hoping and wishing to the certainty of expecting. The images you encourage and entertain in your minds eye, what you say to yourself and everybody else reflects only the results you are committed to.

Most people expect the worst and hope for the best. Our cultural conditioning has thought us things like “don’t get your hopes up” – just in case you might be disappointed. We’ve been taught to aim as low as possible. Everything above that will be a bonus. Right? Wrong! Remember that what you expect with certainty is what you will get in your life. You have to break away from the autopilot of the masses that just settle for an ordinary life; a life where they are not really happy but they are not unhappy to do something about it. If you want to lift your life and the quality of your life to a higher level than what it is at the moment you need to start by raising your expectations. Raise your expectations of what you are as a person and what you believe you deserve. See, what you believe you deserve is based on your expectations. When you lift your expectations to a higher level you raise your own standards and raising your standards is the first step to improving your life.

When you expect only the very best you will get only the very best. What you earn right now is what you expect to earn. The amount of free time you have right now is what you expect to have as free time. The relationships you have are what you expect it to be. When you expect the best it’s not like expecting something good or something similar, but it is the best and only the best. You have to stop settling for less than you can be or have. On a deep psychological level this is exactly what creates your expectations and that is why a lifetime of settling for less than you can be creates an expectation that is only “o.k”. It becomes the standard that you are willing to settle for. Think of yourself as the pregnant mother who expects (not hopes) only the best and with her imagination she is able to “live” the result in magnificent detail until she eventually has the experience of physically holding her “expectation”. You have to nurture and care for your desires and only by becoming unreasonable in your expectations can you turn your deepest desires into reality. Expectations are ideas that are build on solid rock. They are unshakeable; unlike hopes and wishes that will wash away with the first storm that comes along.

You need no special skills or knowledge to raise your expectations. You simply need a decision that from this point onwards you will never again settle for anything less than you can possible be. The difference between hoping for something with uncertainty and depending on something with expectation is nothing but the way you control and direct the focus of your mind. What you say to yourself, the images you imagine and your behaviour are what you can consciously control and direct. But, only if you choose to. If not, you will revert back to the autopilot of the masses just go with the flow of “whatever” comes along. The cultural autopilot is the emotional default and only through conscious and consistent nurturing of your desires and emotions can you live life by your own standards and create the expectations that will lead you to a life abundance and fulfilment.

Great expectations create great results. When you expect the best it will become a directional mechanism that will guide you to seeking out and finding what you expect. The difference between great expectations and weak hopes is nothing but a mindset; a mindset that can make the difference between living a life of fulfilment and one of desperation and frustration. Create the expectation by making sincere decisions. Nurture your expectations by never settling for anything less than the best.

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